My niece was expelled from catholic school and she is showing no remorse and is out of control, advice?

My sister is at her wits end. My niece was expelled from catholic school for telling some school mates she is bisexual (she is only 13) and my daughter is at her wits end. They are going to counselling but it doesn't seem to be helping. Advice?My niece was expelled from catholic school and she is showing no remorse and is out of control, advice?
Your niece did this on purpose. Every kid in Catholic school, and every parent that sends their kid to a Catholic school, knows very darned good and well that they're not allowed to be openly ANYTHING-sexual while they're there (and that includes heterosexual, if actual sex is occurring), and still expect to stay at that school. So she did what she knew would get her thrown out. She probably wants to go to a school where being ';bisexual'; will make her a star, or at least more glamorous.





She is in the ';nobody can tell me what to do'; and ';the world has to change to accomodate ME'; phase, and is probably acting out just as much at home as she did at school. I don't think counseling will do much good. Her parents should probably just put their foot down about what behaviors they will or won't allow in their home, and leave it at that. They can't make her believe in God or live as a real Catholic.My niece was expelled from catholic school and she is showing no remorse and is out of control, advice?
It sounds to me like there is more going on there than is being stated.





Though Catholicism is against homosexual acts, they usually do not throw someone out just for saying they are bisexual. Catholicism does believe that there are some people who do have true attractions to the same sex and they have programs for it:





http://couragerc.net/ (You can give this to your sister for some help)





If she had gotten expelled, then someone probably made a complaint against her saying something like she was coming on to them, making inappropriate comments and so on. If she was causing uncertainty and problems in the classroom then that can lead to an expulsion.





As for what to do...it depends on what she's doing to be out of control. You can see about sending her to a military camp, I know people who said that certainly worked for them.
And there's something wrong with that? That's why I don't have a reigion- it makes it seem like yet another way of telling someone they're doing ';wrong'; in life, when all it is is expressing themselves. If part of being catholic is to forgive, then forgive her. It may be the way she chooses to go, it may be teen curiousity, it shouldn't matter! It's her life, let her be what she wants. No one can deny what their personality is like. Being bisexual doesn't make someone ';out of control';- did she kill someone? No. Will it lead to her killing someone? No! Will it possibly lead to her finding a soul mate when she's older- may it be guy or girl? Yes!
She shouldn't have been expelled for saying that she was bisexual.


Some children go through a stage (that could last YEARS) of being ';out of control';, and you just have to work your way through it, theres not much you can do.


Some parents try to put their kids in ';boarding schools'; and ';girls homes'; but that only makes the situation worse. You just have to try to understand where the girl is coming from and deal with it basically.


Especially with how the laws are set up.
After having been forced to attend catholic schools I doubt she was kicked out for being bi. They would try everything possible to ';save'; her. There must be something more involved. All teen do not buy into the religion stuff and rebel in different ways. This could very well be what is happening here. While I was in school I put on a very false front so I did not have to be in trouble all of the time. However, from time to time I did ask some pointed questions which had me spending time after school getting straightened out. When I got away from home at college I officially departed from the church. Your niece may be waging a much more public fight against the church.
I think your niece found a perfect way out of a school system she did not like. 13 is a little young to be sure of your sexual perference. '





Out of control, as in going out and not coming home? Stealing, doing drugs, running around with unsuitable people.





OR just being kicked out of school?





Keep her in counseling. Or let her run for a bit but let her know the consequences are HERS. The first time she gets in trouble she won't like it.
Theres nothing wrong with being bisexual.


Thats whats wrong with kids these days because they feel they cant express themselves.


Its not the end of the world.
Well its kinda weird but in schools being ';bi'; seems to be a trend.





Its probably just a phase, maybe she heard it from some other kids at school and wanted to fit in.